To this day I have no idea how I knew to do what I did - there was no one to help me, and the truth was, all my friends and my mother thought I was crazy to take the approach I did.
That's how I know that everything we women have been taught about how to be with men is wrong, and how I figured out for myself what really WORKS with a man.
What we tend to focus on is whether we can ‘prove’ that the person in question is guilty of having malicious intentions.
Aside from the fact that we cannot ‘prove’ what another persons intentions are or were (that’s up to them to do), what we forget is that who a person is is self-evident and that they It’s healthy not to run around assuming that anything that we don’t like has bad intentions behind it or to assume that other people’s behaviour is about us and put our worth behind their intentions.
‘Casual’ Relationships – Casual arrangements including Friends With Benefits and booty calls, as well as those who don’t want anything ‘heavy’ and like to keep it ambiguous and unlabelled.
If you're experiencing this right now, I know how it feels - I was there many times in my life, and then for almost 6 months with the man who's now my brilliant husband.
Boomerang Relationships – Can’t break, won’t break, your ex keeps leaving and returning, and you keep taking them back.
Or, you keep chasing them down and waiting around, sometimes even being disruptive in their current relationship. Rebound Relationships – Caught between two relationships, this is basically not over an ex or the pain from a breakup, or the hurts from the fallout.
Acknowledging that something happened and giving the benefit of the doubt are not mutually exclusive.
We have to acknowledge what happened and how we feel in order to gauge whether the benefit of the doubt is warranted or whether we need to represent ourselves more adequately.